I’ve been thinking.
About how we communicate with others.
How we interact relationally and make meaning.
And it got me here:
why do we give generic praise and specific criticism?
Have you noticed that?
We are quick to give real meaty and specific criticism because there is something that we don’t like and we want it different. Criticism focuses on what’s wrong. Why don’t we focus on what’s right?
Do your realize what giving a genuine compliment does for the person you give it to?
You can completely make someones day by a genuine gesture.
What about what giving a genuine compliment can do you for?
Focusing on the good in the world- what’s right with the world- can improve your mood immediately.
Also- giving a genuine compliment can further a conversation or strengthen a bond.
So here it goes- instead of criticism I choose praise.
Anonymous compliments to those I love (because directed ones may not belong in a blog post):
I am grateful for the way you make me feel appreciated, loved, and worthy. I recognize the effort you put forth in making me feel this way. I have never felt so at ease with another person. You are my safe place.
Your trust means everything to me. I have let you down time and time again and you continuously believe in me. That’s courage! (and unconditional love that only a Mother could have)
Life dealt you some rough cards but you really showed her!
You were brave to get your divorce and be true to who you are. Your bravery does not go unnoticed. And I love the REAL you.
I have never known someone with such a love for life as you. You make everyone around you feel good and energized about life.
I value the moments of true friendship we shared. You helped me become who I am today.
You are so caring. No matter what, you ask me how my day is and that does not go unnoticed. The effort you put into our friendship is meaningful.
You are the definition of strength.
You have changed in all the best ways. You have worked so hard to be the person you are today and your dedication to being your best self is admirable.
You loved me when I didn’t love myself and that’s praiseworthy.
I challenge you- GIVE SPECIFIC PRAISE.
Shower those around you with positivity.
Focus on what’s right with someone.